I am fighting right along with you. Every single day. My own ex hasn't really let up and we've been divorced since 2018. Going on eight years of post-separation abuse. Good times.
Here's a little example of what my life is like behind the scenes. For 3.5 years, I have been asking her to cooperate with getting our youngest son a passport. I want to take him to Mexico and I have some timeshare points where I can stay for almost nothing each year.
She hasn't cooperated. In fact, just the opposite. She has blocked and fought and argued for more than three years.
I finally had enough and I raised the issue with the Parenting Coordinator that was assigned to us at our last modification hearing. During the PC meeting here are some of the abusive things my ex said while arguing against getting our youngest (11 year old) a passport.
- I am afraid Will is going to kidnap him and never bring him back (keep in mind, I have him 50/50 and there is not a reason for this. It is just an empty accusation)
- Mexico is really dangerous
- Will can go to Mexico by himself without our son.
- I don't know if he will be able to get back in time from his vacation (I have seven weeks in a row with our son)
- Will won't give me back the passport if we get one
- It is too much trouble for me to pass off the passport because I have to work
- Will doesn't pay me any child support and I work full time (child support was waived by the court because we make the same amount of money.)
- I don't want Will bringing a significant other on vacation (none of her business and I don't presently have a significant other.)
- Will can't be counted on to follow the court orders.
These are just some that I remember from the 10 minutes that she got to ramble on.
Ultimately the PC ordered that she will have to cooperate and she has 30 days to do so. I have to send her the required notarized form, but she has 30 days to comply. We will see if she actually does it.
I write all of this to tell you all that I am right there with you. Everything that is happening to you, has likely happened to me in my own experience. And if it hasn't happened directly, it has happened to my clients. I know what these people are capable of and I have developed stratagies to battle against them effectively.