My program costs $2,900.

Here are the goals:

• Protect you - First thing I do is insulate you from the toxic messages
• Handle problems in real time - Together, we handle what the ex throws your way.
• Train the dog - I will train the ex that they aren't getting to you anymore. They learn, like dogs, to back down and to settle a bit in their messages. It really works like animal training. When you return to messaging, they will be much calmer. But this doesn't mean they are safe to pet.
• Teach you strategies - The meat and potatoes of my system. I want you to learn to effectively handle them without the triggering, the backlash, defending yourself or the PTSD.
• Install protections - I give you ongoing protections which intercept and guard you against toxic comms.
• Ongoing support - from occasional questions (free) to having me handle your messages from now until the kids are in their 30's, I can help. Ongoing support is whatever level YOU need. We can talk about this towards the end of the program.

The goal is that you're ready within 3-6 months. This largely depends on a couple of things like how your ex begins to communicate, if you're triggered by their messages and your "readiness" to return to the messages.

I have clients who never want to have to communicate with their toxic co-parent again. Some have been with me for almost me four years.

The optional cost after the initial 3-6 monts is $249 per month for ongoing monitoring and full message handling. This is totally optional.

I have several types of past clients:

• I have clients who "graduate" and are doing great today. They don't need me to message for them anymore.
• I have clients who throw up in their mouths a bit when they think about having to communicate with their ex again. So they stay on afterwards and have me do it for them.
• I have clients that leave and come back after a few months of communicating with their co-parent. They get back into the messaging and realize that their ex hasn't changed, so they return to me and I do the messaging for them.

No matter where you land after the initial 3-6 months, I am here for you. Just remember, I want to get you to a place where your ex's messages don't affect you at all.

I get this a lot. When people ask me "what do you do for a living," you should see their faces.

Unless a person has had the lovely experiencing of having a narcisstic ex who they have children with, it's a bit explan the abuse. Many will say, "I divorced my ex and everything is fine." For those of us who have dealt with the post-separation abuse, we know how destructive their behaviors are.

What do I do exactly?

• Intercept your ex's messages - Their messages go to me. This fully insulates you from the abuse from day one!
• Filter out all of the B.S. that they send - 95% of what the narc-ex sends has no substance and doesn't help the children.
• Legitimate Comms - If there is a legitimate communication that needs to get to you, I filter it and give you ONLY what you need to know. I take out all of the abusive shit. If your ex actually needs something, I will send that part along to you, rewritten to take out any triggering content.
• Emotional support from someone who understands - I know. I have been right where you are. In many ways, I am still where you are. My own ex had so many affairs that I lost count. She is toxic AF so I get it. I am here for you.
• Communication Strategies - When you need to communicate with your ex about something, you send what you want to say to me first. I strategize with you to with the goal of getting agreement with them. I draft the perfect message. And I deal with any backlash or arguments that your ex sends. You remain insulated from the abuse at all times.
• Court-Safe Messaging - I make sure that what I send on your behalf is safe for judges and court. Your messages won't get you into legal trouble.
• PC communications - I will help you communicate with your Parenting Coordinator (PC). I help here, because I am fully aware of how the PC assignments work and what the PC limitations are. Even the PCDMs in some states are very limited in scope. Also, my goal is to diffuse the escalation to the PC.
• Moving Forward: We start with acute care, then we move to maintenance mode. My program works. I have more than four years of experience doing this. It isn't just "grey rock." It is much more involved and MUCH more successful.
  
  The immediate shift is radical. You stop all communications with your ex and I handle it for you. And when you're ready, I will help you install a technology buffer that I have fully vetted to help you going forward.
  
  If you end up self-managing, I will help you to make sure you're completely ready to take back over your messaging.
  
  Let's get on the phone and chat. I am looking forward to hearing from you. Then, I can tell you more on our phone call. My program takes about 3-6 months depending on the PTSD you have from their abuse.
  
  I gotta train them like a dog. Some dogs take more time. Some less. But while I am training them, you don't have to deal with any of their bad behaviors.

Your attorney is good at attorney stuff. They keep you in check with the laws and what is possible in family court. They don't, however, need to handle your day-to-day messages. That would be stupid-expensive and completely inefficient. You'd be $100,000 deep with them within a year.

My service fills in a much needed gap. I solve a very real problem. I offer a solution where no one else operates. The goal is to protect you and give you peace. I want you to tell your family and friends that I changed your life. I want you to have a happy disposition because I took a very abusive thing off of your plate.

Get healed. Get back to YOU! That's what I want. Your attorney is giving you legal advice (which I don't do) and protecting your rights. I am here to manage your almost daily communications with your narcissistic ex and co-parent in the best way possible.

Nope. It doesn't work.

Your ex is an abusive D-bag (or crazy B for the female narcs). There ain't no fixing that.

"They never change. They never get better. Often, they get worse."

~ Will Grey

There is nothing that will convince them not to be an a$$hat.

What I offer is the closest thing to "no contact" that you can get given that you have kids with this person.

Co-parenting means that you're forced to deal with this person for a long time. I'm not neutral. I work for you and you alone for your protection.

I want to protect you from abuse. I want to help you stay in full compliance with your court orders to protect you legally. I want you to be able to enjoy your children.

The first part of my program includes getting a copy of your divorce orders so that I can read and understand them. I am not an attorney, but I have read hundreds of divorce decrees. Most divorce orders are quite understandable.

I can't handle legal questions for you, but I can read the orders and figure out what you are supposed to be doing. In the areas where something is left undefined, that would be a question for your attorney or Parenting Coordinator (if you have one). But if the divorce orders say that you pick up little Timmy at 3:00 on Friday from school, then that's pretty straight forward.

With divorce orders, I work hard to make sure you're in compliance with what the judge ruled. We wanna make sure that you don't get into trouble when something needs to be done.

A question I often ask myself when working with clients is "What do the court orders say?" I am constantly referencing back to your court orders to make sure you're following them to avoid touble.